Magic the Accepting? Maybe not.
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Posted on March 6, 2012, 12:22 a.m. by Plummyr
This isn't an article that pertains so much to the game, as it does the players.
It isn't one I ever intended to write when I fell in love with this game several months ago. Maybe it's this way with all things, but I'm not so sure sometimes.
In order to fully understnad what I'm going to talk about, I feel like I need to do something almost unheard of on here. I need to share some things about myself in real life.
I'm a 22 year old male. I graduated top of my class, both in High School and College. I hold 2 degrees, one in Military History and another in Emergency Health Services.I spent time in the United States Marine corps, upon returning home and finishing college I became and am an EMT.I also teach at the local college.I played sports all throughout High School, and in every sense of life, I'm Mr. Popular in my town. The good looking guy who has it all.
So why in the world am I writing this? What's the point, you're probably asking yourself. Well here it is.
Why is the MTG community becoming so rude?
Lets be honest. Most of us that play are nerds. Overweight, acne faced, grubby nerds that brave the world every friday night to group with other nerds in order to play this game we all love. Now I HATE stereotyping. HATE it. The reason why I'm writing this is because we're all doing it so much lately it's disgusting.
It makes me almost want to stop playing.
I get sterotyped all the time by the community I play with. The first time I walked into a card store, I was asked by the owner if I was lost. I chuckled at first and asked him why he would ask that. His response? Because I was too good looking to play MTG.
............Really?
Now normally, it wouldn't bother me. Compliment, right? Maybe? Regardless, it struck me as odd. So I blew it off, got what I needed, learned more about the local FNM places and left. Well it didn't stop at that. Every store I have been too, the players and owners simply refuse to believe that I play MTG. Because I don't fit the stereotype. I've even been refused service because the owner thought I was joking when I wanted to purchase some cards.
.................................REALLY?
The other night at a standard tournament, I was generally treated like crap by the players. I was mocked as a "newb", someone who didn't know what I was doing, and the whole thing was just not a good time. Especially when it was realized I wasn't a newb, that I've played for quite some time now, and having actually read ALL the rules, know more than most anyone else there, outside of the DCI judge.
One player even suggested I pay attention to his deck "so I could actually learn how to put something together than wasn't terrible". (I took 3rd overall with UB zombies, but since I only have 2x Gravecrawler instead of 4x, I'm garbage to most everyone)
When did every deck have to be cookie cutter of each other? Spirits, agro, zombies, tempered steel, how much originality actually exists when it comes down to it? very little. All the metas across the nation are more likely than not, the same. Maybe a few tweaks, but you see it all over the place. You guys know what I'm talking about.
When did stereotyping takes such a huge roll in the MTG community? Is it like this everywhere? Are you guilty of it? I hope not. The community that I know and love is better than this. MTG is a game that throughout the years has brought people together of every race, religion, color, and background. Even people across the world come together to play this game we all love. But i think lately alot of people are missing the point. And that's that this game is also played for fun. Not every deck HAS to be standard, or have all the cards and themes of tournament decks.
I like to win, but I like to have fun. In fact, I'd rather have fun playing this game, than win.
I want to encourage you guys and gals to accept everyone like we used too. Back home, that's what we do. Young players, old players, new and pro, it doesn't matter. We all help and encourage one another on to just have a fun, relaxed time to enjoy the company of the game and competing against each other.
I'm not trying to make myself seem any better than anyone else. The game is always changing, I will always get mana screwed when it counts, and life will go on regardless. But I wanted to bring it to everyones attention that how we as MTG players act and appear to the general public, and even on here, reflects upon us all. You get one sore loser, one jerk, and suddenly we're all stereotyped the same.
Lets face it. Society thinks we all live at home, in the basement, are virgins in wizard hats, and spend tuesdays nights fighting dragons. But lets be honest, most of us aren't that. Even if you are all those things (and I have a wizards hat, btw. And a headcrab hat. and lots of figurines), even if you live in your parents basement and are 35 and overweight and never had a girlfriend, please. PLEASE. You don't have to act like everyone expects you too. Don't stereotype yourselves!
So in closing, again, I encourage you all to act in such a way as to change that outlook upon us. Help out a new player this FNM. Extend yourselves outside the normal people you play with. Get to know the players better. I know alot of us already do that, there's nothing I love more than teaching people this game and helping them build decks, learn rules and win games. It's rewarding guys.
Thanks for reading, and please feel free to leave comments about this note.
Note: no flamming please, I realize not everyone is like this, most of us are genuinely great people, but sometimes we don't realize we're being a douche to others. My intentions are to ask you guys to better yourselves and others in this game we adore to play.
Thanks guys.
I agree. It's odd though, I live in the midwest, and it seems like it's reverse here because everyone outside the local MTG community are the nicest people you'd ever meet. Though a few exceptions exist.
I guess my main, central point is exactly as you said, some people take this game way too seriously. I haven't taken it to heart, life showed me you can't do that, but it was hard to see new players get turned away cause of how the stereotyped players treated them. It genuinely made me sad that I couldn't have done more to convince them that we players as a whole, aren't all like that.
March 6, 2012 1:04 a.m.
Minousmancer says... #4
Yeah people are too judgmental, my wife and I are both geeks/nerds and blossomed later in life, we are both models and people treat us weird when we go to the comic book shop to pick up some G.I*JOE stuff or Watchmen, or I start talking about how frank miller is a republican douche-nozzle then ask if they've gotten in any new Dark Ascension cards the people there are always 'confused looking' at the two of us.
People think that just because they think something is true it is, wow I'm starting to sound like Terry Goodkind.
If anyone wants to be LJ friends I'm Minousmancer in my URL.
March 6, 2012 1:31 a.m.
Wizard of the Damned says... #5
I know what you mean. I'm a bodybuilder and always have been into things not considered "normal" among the group of people I hung out with. I just love the game..I've been treated like an idiot at almost every tournament I have attended just because I don't "look like your average player" (quoted from my last tournament opponent ). I know plenty of people who aren't "nerd" types as depicted by normal society. Its a game of strategy, not just a game of fantasy. I mean, my girlfriend even plays magic
March 6, 2012 1:42 a.m.
aeonstoremyliver says... #6
Semper Fidelis, Devil Dog. I served in our beloved Marine Corps.
I've come across people like you mentioned in card shops before. Kinda makes me not want to play there. They take it WAY to seriously for a freakin' game.
Unfortunately, stereotypes exist for a reason; not all nerds are created equal, smart, and original. That wasn't to sound harsh, merely realistic.
Vanity aside, how we treat people matters. For every person that is rude and disrespectful to you, as hard as it is, kill them with kindness. You'll be amazed at what happens...
I live in South Bend, Indiana; a town way too big for it's britches. Alot of folks here seem to think they're all that, not to mention the University of Notre Dame has it's own zip code...
In any case, Pay It Forward, man.
March 6, 2012 1:58 a.m.
Minousmancer says... #7
"Unfortunately, stereotypes exist for a reason; not all nerds are created equal, smart, and original. That wasn't to sound harsh, merely realistic." - aeonstoremyliver
I was going to link a photo but cant' find it it's description is telling but the visual is need, I'll get back to this tomorrow...
March 6, 2012 2:25 a.m.
aeonstoremyliver says... #8
...meaning that the few who are jerks ruin it for the rest of us. Are all white people 'White Devils,' are all Jews scroogy, etc. I was merely trying to conjure up imagery to make my point in agreeing with what the dude said. Hope no offense was taken. Wasn't intended...
March 6, 2012 2:34 a.m.
KrazyCaley says... #9
Magic cetainly has a large number of trolls and what I refer to as "Magic hipsters," people who have a very desperate NEED to be viewed as the most knowledgeable/"best" Magic player there. Keep it positive and find a good play group. If everyone was a jerk, the game wouldn't survive. If everyone was NICE, I think the game would be a lot bigger than it is, which is the real tragedy of your story, to me.
March 6, 2012 2:45 a.m.
I find this happens often too, im 6ft 4 and also a body builder and this weird stuff happens all too often. My solution to not playing with infuriating people is that now i have a 7ft dining table in my house and my mates come round to play EDH :-). I don't usually get abuse from people for obvious reasons but definitely get looked down on by supposed 'pros'. Play EDH with your mates and it will avoid all the problems you mentioned with standard (which i agree with by the way) and because you play with your mates its a much more relaxed friendly atmosphere. I also live in England so i find it quite difficult to find games anyway! the store I used to go to shut down :-( you guys all rock and it annoys me you live in America lol :-P keep being cool
March 6, 2012 3:08 a.m.
Yea I agree with this article. It is VERY hard to enter into a magic community without knowing anyone. I've tried to play FNM at my local shop and they don't talk to me and just play agaisnt me. They all net deck and they all are what Caley refers to as "magic hispters". It took a while (a year and some) until the char shop owner here got to know my name and recognizes me.
In highschool I played soccer and rugby and barely played any games and such, mostly just work, school, and sports. I myself had stereotyped Magic as the game that "nerd virgins" play and vowed I'd never play it. Then after M11 came out a few co-workers were talking about it and then I just fell in love with it. I never knew of the amazing art, flavor text, and the overall complexity of the game. I feel like such an idiot for stereotyping it poorly.
Anyways, point is I like making good decks but I also like having fun, which playing in Kelowna can't really do for me. I've resorted to just playing casual and having fun, and that's what magic is all about for me basically.
Even though I live in Canada, thanks for serving in the Marines ExNagol, as Canada and the US more or less do everything together. I appreciate that you're helping us out too.
March 6, 2012 3:27 a.m.
Nice write-up. I agree with the point of the thread, which is "Don't judge a book by its cover". ExNagol, bear in mind that these people were likely persecuted in one way or another by people that they perceive to be "like you". That doesn't give them license to be douchebags, but it does explain their attitude problem. Personally, I can relate to the problems you describe, but I've learned to disarm these people with wit and humor. A little bit of self-deprication usually does the trick. And like you said, show off your nerd-knowledge.
At the end of the day though, it might not be worth it to worry about what these people think of you. If they want to live their closed-minded and sheltered lives, that's their prerogative, and I'm not sure I would want to be friends with someone like that anyway.
March 6, 2012 8:36 a.m.
rckclimber777 says... #13
I think part of it is that there is a tendency to protect one's self from possible criticism. There are many people who look at magic on the outside and see just a game with creatures and sorcery etc. It seems weird to them and so they make fun of those who play it or any game such as it. So people who play on a regular basis see the store as almost a safe place I guess and when they see someone who resembles a possible threat to them, they throw up their defensive walls.
All that to say that I see where the lashing out came from and can see the reasoning in their mind. Not condoning of course. However, I am surprised at the level of discrimination you've received. Personally the stores that I go to are typically filled with a diverse group of people. So I can't say that I've seen that kind of discrimination in the stores I've been to, although I have found that I'm often an outsider at a new store until they've seen me play or taken a look through my trade binder etc. I personally would not fall into the stereotype of nerds as I live a very active lifestyle as my name here would suggest and I would like to think I'm reasonably attractive and successful.
Sorry to hear that you've had this kind of experience. I hope that you find a store where people are generally more accepting and diverse. If all else fails teach some of your "attractive" friends how to play, get them hooked, and then bring them to the store with you. Then eventually you'll be able to change their mindset or push them out lol.
March 6, 2012 10:39 a.m.
Minousmancer says... #14
The reason I love Magic is why it was created, as a way to teach kids math, that is why I got my Daughter into it.
March 6, 2012 12:26 p.m.
Time is a funny thing. It changes how we look at things, how we treat others (and ourselves), and -perhaps most importantly- what we expect out of the world.
I'm not proud to say that about a two years ago I would have fit the bill to the stereotyping player that you describe in your post. I didn't believe that decks had to be verbatim clones of the standard meta from SCG:Os and TCQs/GPs but I did take a condescending attitude to anyone new in the store. It wasn't something that was pointed out to me because most of the others in the store acted that way.
All that changed when I attended the Grand Prix in Dallas last year.
There was a group of players that had just walked into the event hall and were discussing the viability of mono-red in the format with Jace and Stoneforge Mystic still being legal. I mentioned that I had registered a mono-red deck to them and they asked me if I didn't mind playing a few games.
I didn't read SCG articles or keep up with literature. I taught myself what I know about the game and played based on my observations of what other people were doing. Naturally I had no clue who these people were.
Without realizing it, I had sat down to playtest my version of RDW against some of the best players in the world. I thought that the large group of people standing around us was because we were one of the larger groups of people playing games in a somewhat desolate day-before-event floor but would later come to learn that my opponents' fame was what attracted the crowd.
A lot of questions were being asked during the games from the peanut gallery and some of the questions I just dismissed with the "you don't know what you're talking about" mentality; however, my opponents never dismissed a question. They always thought about it and then delivered an answer.
I would later come to the realization that these professionals never dismiss anyone based on appearance or otherwise for a few reasons: Your opponent should never be underestimated Ideas can come from anywhere* Magic needs more people in the community to keep competitive play valid.
Bertocinni and Chapin both commented on the danger of my choice to play RDW in the format because it basically auto-loses to Valakut. They also told me my attitude didn't suit a player of my caliber.
The same statement coming from two different sources is not easily dismissed and after I learned who I had just been playing with from a bystander... well, let's just say that I put some serious thought into my attitude and slowly started to make a change.
My attitude towards people changed just as strongly as my attitude towards players. Bertocinni and Chapin probably don't realize that they've made me a better individual and improved the quality of the play environment here in Kansas City because of my realizations at the Dallas GP.
This game has made me a better person. It sounds weird to attribute character development to Magic... but there it is.
March 6, 2012 4:05 p.m.
First off, I want to say a huge thank you to all of you who posted on here. The response was far beyond what I had expected, and to even have all the comments be professional, even helpful, is almost unheard of. It is the internet after all lol.
Semper Fi to aeonstoremyliver first off, it's good to see the family on here.
I agree with what everyone has said on here. It was said well before as "don't judge a book by it's cover". I did some thinking throughout the day about why this exactly bugged me. As prior service and in my job now, generally "ignoring" peoples opinions of me is part of the jobs. But MTG is personal to me, it's my hobby, it's how I wind down on the weekend and get away from all the other crap in the world and on the ambulances and just have fun doing what I love. Play MTG. So to go to a store and get the same, really got under my skin.
As far as playing with my mates, as maiden77 suggested, the issue with that is more where I'm at right now. back in the day, we played almost daily cause we didn't have anything to do, but after our service was up we came back home. Probably 6 months ago, about 95% of the players here in town moved in together about 45 minutes away and took up warhammer instead, which is why I've started to get into the MTG FNM at the closest store, still 30 minutes away lol. But it's better than letting the decks collect dust on the table. Per your guys encouragement, I'll continue to stick it out and just be myself. Never met anyone who hasn't liked me yet once they get to know me lol. I've been trying to get more local people into it, but as it was said, with this economy it's hard to do that. Even with my vast collection of cards, i can't supply everything to everyone.
I know the local community has to exist cause all the booster packs/fat packs are sold out at the walmart within a week or two of release...now just to hunt them down...
Again, thank you guys for your overwhelming positive response to this, not just on a personal level, but sharing your stories as well. Especially jkarnes, it was refreshing to know that even the high level players are still helping and encouraging players. I do hope we all continue to help each other. I strongly believe that the MTG community is one of the best around.
March 6, 2012 10:01 p.m.
Minousmancer says... #18
MtG attracts all kinds of people because there are so many aspects to it, strategy, mathematics, story, fantasy, flavor, science, science fiction, challenges, it draws all of us that find ourselves drawn to any thing dark and outside what is considered shiny and trendy, plus it's a great escape, better, more personal then the tele, faster than board games, and with friends it really fun to explore how your friends minds work, and it opens our own to look at things differently...
There is just so much to draw people into it. You can attract chess players, to Star Trek fans, heck even Twilight fans, anyone who has ever felt like an outcast.
Like ex-jocks who still shun people who play Dungeons & Dragons and yet are still into playing fantasy football. But MtG appeals to bot types.
Wow now I'm just rambling, and the wife wants me to get offline, I might continue this tomorrow...
March 6, 2012 11:21 p.m.
Please do, I wrote this because I wanted to discuss it with other players about how the stereotyping of us has affected us or those around us and ways we can overcome or deal with it. Also to bring awareness to the fact it exists and hopefully open some players eyes to maybe taking a step back and thinking "you know what? I do that" and hopefully take a more accepting approach to new players in every sense of that word.
Personally, I love the strategy. I played chess since I was in middle school and this is a tacticians playground. Can't get enough of it.
March 7, 2012 12:53 a.m.
It's pretty sick no doubt. Most people are caught up in their everyday grind to have hobbies like this though. I have 0 friends in real life who play magic.. My brother-in-law played, but he has two kids now and stopped playing. So all I have is FNM to play real people. So even though i'm probably not the best player, I can make pretty good decks. Because, that's all I can do throughout the week in my spare time, awaiting the next friday. Magic was in the local newspaper here, and it pretty much said "not just for nerds." I see it getting more popular too.
March 7, 2012 1:46 a.m.
I think the biggest stigma against Magic is that people who don't play categorize it as something for nerds and children thanks to the wild success of Pokemon and Yu-Gi-Oh! They're all trading card games and people automatically attribute those games towards children and/or nerds, and therefor normally a negative connotation is levied against Magic players.
They don't see the flavor, mathematics and strategy involved, they just see numbers and pictures on cards.
What is kind of gratifying anyways is seeing different types of people with different types of interests coming together to play, like Minousmancer states. People who don't give a flying pig about flavor are being drawn in by the strategy, and the people who could care less about math are being drawn into the magnificent universe WoTC have created.
I had one friend say how they liked reading up history and stuff because of the strategy involved. I showed him magic and he was interested enough, even though he had the same stigma "Magic is for nerds, I'll never play", to let me show him. He was SEVERELY shocked at the amount of thought and planning that had to go into it and he has been hooked ever since.
As for the accepting someone into their play group, it's the same reason that breaking into highschool cliks is so hard. They have their group of friends they play with and they like it. They probably don't like outsiders, especially if you appear to be really different, because they don't want to ruin the chemistry and risk change. Change is a scary thing for people and most people resist it. Most of the time as long as you're nice and get to know them, you'll slide right in. Depends on how long.
March 7, 2012 2:44 a.m.
Minousmancer says... #22
Correction: "But MtG appeals to both types." Both* not bot...
March 7, 2012 6:51 a.m.
This is something I'm familiar with. Our local shop has the regulars that come in all the time and everyone knows each other and it's hunky dorky. But then people new to the game come in and want to learn about the game and it's intricacies. Most of the time they look like deer caught in the headlights. I know that we're guilty from time to time of not giving the best impression.
I've kinda taken it upon myself to help the newer folks to the game as well as the shop and teach them what I know about the game and if it takes a couple hours helping them build a deck or explaining rules to them I do it. Now keep in mind I'm just an intermediate player looking for fun and something to obsess over.
It's because when you first start something the first couple of times you do something, whether it's being new to mtg or the first time you've been to a shop, it sets the pace for the rest of the times. If you have bad memories of the first couple of times you did something or went that's what you'll remember when you think about it. I love seeing newer players come into to the store looking for advice, cards or information.
The other thing I've noticed is that different shops have different shops have different ambiance. When I was at college in a different town There were two shops to go to and neither one was accepting to new players. A good percentage of the players had a "Holier than thou" attitude. My only recommendation is if you can't find a different shop that has a more welcoming play group stick to it and get to know shop more eventually they'll crack and become decent(I think). I agree with earlier statements that people are afraid of change and that sometimes new players signify that.
Sorry for the ramble.
March 7, 2012 7:10 a.m.
aeonstoremyliver says... #24
Not to tell my age, but I was in high school when MTG arrived on the scene. I was a scraggly, 4'11" and 88lb smart kid who really didn't fit in anywhere. One of my teachers introduced me to a group of kids that played Shadowrun, D&D, Earthdawn, Battletech, and MTG.
Unlimited had just passed and Revised was on it's way in. Like mentioned before, I was a chess player and was hooked on the strategic aspects of the game. Unfortunately, there were little card shops in the area that sold singles, so I traded for many of my cards or used my lunch money to buy boosters of Forgotten Empires (a crappy expansion btw lol). Then came Ice Age, Homelands, and the Urza expansion blocks. I joined the Marine Corps, and shortly thereafter, sold all of my cards for $100.00. Not that I had the Power Nine or anything, but I regret it now.
Years passed and I saw an Intro Deck at Wal-Mart one day. It was a R/G deck with Conquering Manticore as the foil. I picked it up for 12 and some change and dug the Eldrazi. I phoned a friend of mine who I knew played years ago as well and he picked up a Scars of Mirrodin B/G infect deck. We've been re-hooked ever since, making appearances at local FNM events here in South Bend and in Elkhart.
Interesting to note is that we both play in a band, are married, and are not who you'd expect to show up to a FNM. We experienced that at the local shop here in South Bend. Very competitive, overly so in fact, cut-throat, and there was even some cheating going on. Go figure. There were a few cool cats out of the bunch who were more accepting than others, but most were jerks. As mentioned above, I can see why they'd be defensive because we weren't 'regulars,' So, my friend found this spot in Elkhart not far from where we work and we play there now. It's a small shop, seats about 20 people, and has a much friendlier, humble atmosphere. Granted we still get teased, but there it's all in good fun and humor. I'm free to be my eccentric self, growling out loud when a werewolf transforms, or cursing when it get's a Doom Blade to it's head.
From a psychological and humanistic standpoint, we all have a need to be accepted. We weren't meant to be alone, to tread the path of this life as one person, but to be amongst the company of others. This game does bring people together, of many colors, creeds, religions, and styles. We who play this game should make it a point to be accepting of others, especially the newbies, they need it most lol.
March 7, 2012 2:01 p.m.
Wizard of the Damned says... #25
To be honest, I'll probably never go back to a card shop unless they just have some good deals. I've been to two different shops and both were terrible experiences. Just give me my tappedout and that's enough for me. Better than sitting there tormented by rude comments by regulars
March 7, 2012 3:14 p.m.
I agree that it is a society thing not just in magic, but it is often a thing in magic.
And I may seem like king of the nerds on this site, but when it comes down to it, i don't even play magic and when I do, i do it for fun.
no matter how proud someone is about how great they are there is no such thing as a professional magic player. you can't make a living on it.
most importantly, it's a game everyone. just because I can own my child when playing Sorry, does not make me awesome.
March 7, 2012 3:26 p.m.
Minousmancer says... #28
Magic is amazing in it's appeal, but people get way too, cocky...
March 7, 2012 4:10 p.m.
Ya. This kid that works at the store I go to, is #1 in my state. Him and his brother are cocky as HELL. You just want to punch them sometimes because of how they treat people. God forbid you are not a level 1 DCI judge, and forget a little rule here or there, they'll ream you out and try to make you look like a retard.
March 7, 2012 4:39 p.m.
I don't think there's a thing I don't love about magic, from the strategy to the flavor, I love everything about it.
It's unfortunate you can't make a living doing this or I'd quit my days jobs and give it all I got. I'd love to go to one of the major tournaments, even to just watch and meet other players. I watched the live streams and enjoyed it.
Society in general has a need to be accepted by others. More so when those others are our peers, the ones that we play against and such. I think it's the cocky players that get me the most. And if I say anything at all then they just retract into that stereotype that since I'm a jock I'm gonna beat him up or whatever happened to him before to make him be that way. But I would argue that the it's almost more prevalent in magic because the central focus of players are people other than some of us.
I'm also skeptical as so how often I'll return to the card shop outside of draft and tournament events.
March 7, 2012 7:51 p.m.
komoriblues says... #31
Reading this in 2015, in a very similar place as you only I'm 32 years old. I find a lot of the nerd community is very standoff-ish and assuming. I'm a good looking guy, very athletic, sociable, have two degrees...just a well balanced person, so what does that mean? It means I must not REALLY like magic...I mean, I only started in sixth grade? I don't know where to pin the transformation in society, but my experience has seen things really turn upside down around the time of the social networking boom. I don't bother playing MTG in card shops or even really like going to my local card stores because a lot of "nerd" culture these days act like they know everything or are just down right not inviting. They act like because they've taken a course in deductive reasoning or google the latest scientific journal that they know everything. I just don't have fun with this new crowd, maybe I'm getting too old for the game. Fortuntately I have a lot of friends who can come over to my house (Had about ten people over to play) and we keep it competative whilst casual. Social skills seem to be fading.
C4rnif3X says... #2
I don't really think it has to do with magic players, but society in general. If you are not a regular somewhere, (bar, club, school, ect) you're looked at differently for a while. Society has really gone to shit in the last ten years in my eyes, everyone's so bitter and cut off. That's weird you got turned down at a store, business is business.. Especially in today's economy. I've never really seen a problem at the two FNMs I go to. There's a variety of people their in fact. It's probably just where you live. There is however a couple of different people off the top of my head that take the game WAY to serious, and do treat people bad just because you haven't been there as long, or part of the in crowd there. Like I said though, you find that everywhere. Try not to take things to heart, and brush off the jerks. Seek out the more casual players, and just have fun.
March 6, 2012 12:50 a.m.