how do i finesse this girl
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Posted on March 6, 2017, 2:55 a.m. by noxusmachine
i need help :(
Serendipitous_Hummingbird says... #3
I'd start by outgrowing the use of "finesse" as a verb, particularly in the context of courtship.
Where you take it from there is a case by case kind of thing, but thinking of her as a person and not a goal is always a good starting point.
March 6, 2017 5:13 a.m.
Talk to her and listen to her.
If you start to get to know her, suggest doing things that she likes.
March 6, 2017 5:41 a.m.
Don't admit that you play MTG right off the get-go, don't admit you like video games yet, don't admit you like fantasy and sci-fi stories, take a shower, shave, no bronie shirts, keep your eyes at eye level, comb your hair, don't tell her you live in grandma's basement, talk to her, and most importantly..............just be yourself.
In all seriousness though, just be yourself (because if and when you score a date, she's going to figure it out eventually anyway) and talk to her to see what common interests you have.
Also agree on discontinuing the use of the word finesse.
March 6, 2017 8:42 a.m.
Don't use the word finesse. It's too formal. Don't mention anything games-wise until much later. Just keep calm and be yourself, and whatever you do, don't get overprotective. Be hygienic as well; and for the love of Bolas don't be boring. I feel that way as well, but you don't want your date to be dozing off while you speak. You know, like this:
March 6, 2017 9:29 a.m.
MindAblaze says... #8
A couple things;
Listening - listening to understand and showing understanding gets you way further than listening to respond. Respect and understanding goes a long way.
Be yourself - don't pretend to be something you're not, which includes a gamer I would assume. Unless you plan to leave behind all the things you do for your own enjoyment, remember that you're still a person who has needs. Being someone you're not to "finesse" your way into someone's pants is a recipe for disaster.
Finally, think about the way you talk about the world. It's not yours to own or enjoy, but be confident about your ability to enjoy life. People like happy people, and they want to know your happy can coexist with theirs.
March 6, 2017 11:50 a.m.
Hardhitta7 says... #11
Usually I just walk up and say "wassup baby girl? You just been finessed, wanna go back to my place and have a couple hot and heavy rounds of Mtg?"
Works every time.
PhotogenicParasympathetic says... #2
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March 6, 2017 4:14 a.m.